Today is a busy day.
After work I have 2 gatherings to go to.
The first is a reunion for my team from the weekend at Girlfriend University, the second is an annual girls holiday party.
As the night progressed I realized a recurring theme with the evening.
At the reunion I was talking with a woman and somehow we got onto the topic of dating.
I mentioned my recent dilemma of feeling like I'm stuck somewhere in the middle of the dating pool.
She offered up some fabulous advice, saying after she turned 40 she realized she was dating for an energy level more than an age.
I thought that was very profound... if only I could get over my agism.... then I'd be all set.
I have a double standard when it comes to age. I know I'm 39... and I feel like I'm 22... but I certainly don't think the same way when it comes to guys.
They can be 39 but if they feel 22 somehow they are immature... and God forbid if they are 45 and have gray hair... I think they're a grandpa! And some of them are!!
Wow talk about jumping from one extreme to the other... here's a girl who's been single 90 percent of her life now she's a grandma.
Actually that could be a good riddle. A 39 year old woman who has never had a child becomes a grandmother overnight... how does it happen?
Sure it's easy for you now, I just told you how it would happen, but if you didn't know that would you be able to figure it out??
Later when I was at the girls holiday party I heard the BFF mention my name.
I wondered what she was talking about... sure enough she had brought up the kindergartner I met this time last year.
That of course brought up my age to everyone in the room. I, of course, started talking about the dating dilemma that has been on my mind recently and they all started to chime in.
One of the gals is a year younger than me and she's married to a 50 year old guy. I can't even for the life of me imagine that happening in my life. In my head that really is a grandpa.
Another woman announced her husband is 12 years older than she is... again at my age now that would put him in his 50's.
Absolutely not! It's just unacceptable in my book.
Then the Church Lady started talking about her new boyfriend... he's 55 and as she says 'has the body of a guy in his 20's' with a 6-pack and rugged good looks.
Now if she had started the conversation there could have been a bigger shift to the older man thing. Ha ha
The Church Lady also found love for her mother many years ago, and so she said she was going to help me too. I figured it couldn't be that bad of an idea since she managed to snag herself a 55 year old guy with 6-pack abs, then it hit me and it nearly knocked the wind out of me.
For some reason, hearing the word husband really affected me. I'm not sure why. Maybe because on some level I think it is going to happen soon and I'm not sure I'm ready for it. Or maybe I'm simply mourning the loss of my single years knowing this time they will be gone for a long... long... time
I'm not sure how old or who Prince Charming will be, all I know is he is coming and I'm hoping he's on the younger and ruggedly handsome side of things!
But who knows I guess we all need a modern day fairy tail and If I can be a 40 year old Cinderella then there should also be a 40 year old Prince Charming.... who is hot.
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