Day 361: Dating Dilemna

Today is all about a dating dilemna.

What do you do when a guy you don't want to date asks you out? The answer is simple right?

What do you do when a guy you've known for years that you don't see as anything more than a friend asks you out on a casual hangout date?? That's where it gets a little tricky, at least it does for me.

There are a few guys, who I mentioned yesterday that are falling over to date me. Both I've known for quite some time, both I see only as friends with no romantic potential, and both have asked me out.

One of them has been asking me out forever, but everything is always so ambiguous. I know he's interested, everone around me knows he's interested, but he won't ever say he's interested because he knows I'll tell him I'm not and that will be the end of his little romantic fantasy.

So we end up hanging out, doing this little charade. I can't just bring it up and say 'hey dude, I'm not interested in you' because if I do the male ego will kick in and he'll come back with 'Don't flatter yourself, I'm not either I just want to be friends' when everyone knows othwerwise.

It is so absolutely maddening! The only time I can get a reprieve is when I am dating someone... which I clearly have a problem with... ugh!

Which leads me to the other guy. He's a nice guy I've known for years and he asked me out on a casual date. Once again I know it's a date because we've never hung out before and he asked a friend if I was seeing anyone.

Sure I could go out with him, there's no pressure, it's all casual. But this has been my problem all along. I end up getting stuck in these tough spots because I don't know how to say no to a guy I know!

Maybe its my mother and sister's voices in my head saying 'it never hurts to make a friend', and 'a girls gotta eat', or my fear of confrontation and hurting someone's feelings.

Either way, the bottom line is that I should just put on my big girl panties say no, let it go, and stop wasting my time... and theirs.

Oh and I should mention both asked me out via facebook.... really? I'll save that for another day.

Day 360 here I come!